tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1975416078255909953.post8669039691740284257..comments2024-03-16T18:38:04.996-04:00Comments on Critics At Large : Eye of the Tiger: In Defense of Amy Chua's Battle Hymn of the Tiger MotherCritics at Largehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18073851963852030361noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1975416078255909953.post-43252982330104051452011-03-25T23:05:24.991-04:002011-03-25T23:05:24.991-04:00Laura Warner replies: As far as using extra-curric...Laura Warner replies: As far as using extra-curricular events as a subsitute, Chua was actually against this. It was what she dubbed the "over-scheduling soccer mom." Chua was very very much inovlved in every waking moment of the music lessons.<br /> <br />I do think there's some truth in what you say about her ego. But a lot of everything we put time and effort in has a lot to do with bolstering our egos.Critics at Largehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18073851963852030361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1975416078255909953.post-21550996394552691882011-03-25T11:59:15.933-04:002011-03-25T11:59:15.933-04:00I think the best parents are those who truly *see*...I think the best parents are those who truly *see* their children. Parents who recognize children for who they are at any given moment, not who they could be and not even who they want to be. <br /><br />Parents use so many things (piano lessons, day camp, organized sports) as a substitute so they won’t have to take ownership over truly engaging with their children. I’m not saying that having children involved in these things is inherently wrong, just that good parenting and busy children can coexist, but are in no way directly correlated.<br /><br />I’m just concerned that Chua’s parenting method is not really a parenting method at all – more like a method to boost her own ego.BookButterflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15160141163109345818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1975416078255909953.post-2234546771978845382011-03-25T11:27:47.956-04:002011-03-25T11:27:47.956-04:00Laura Warner replies: Hi Bookbutterfly. Yes, every...Laura Warner replies: Hi Bookbutterfly. Yes, everyone wants their children to be happy. I would also argue that Chua wants very much for her daughters to be happy. She wants them to work hard, succeed and have the freedoms, and subsequent happiness, that comes from hard-work.<br /><br />Although you do raise an interesting point. It reminds me of a Robert Lynd quote: "Most of us believe in trying to make other people happy only if they can be happy in ways which we approve." I think this applies to Chua's method, because, to her, happiness is excellence. <br /><br />While we can criticize Chua for imposing too many of her own opinions on her daughters, the same can be said for every other parenting method. Even the most relaxed parents who see happiness as doing crafts all day and coax them to do so are also pushing their ideals of happiness. <br /><br />I'm just arguing that Chua's method is no better or worse. Just different. And she is motivated by the idea that in the end, her daughters will live full, happy lives.Critics at Largehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18073851963852030361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1975416078255909953.post-43486926622773449432011-03-24T15:28:43.052-04:002011-03-24T15:28:43.052-04:00What about just wanting your kids to be happy? Or ...What about just wanting your kids to be happy? Or is happiness too 2010?BookButterflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15160141163109345818noreply@blogger.com